Unapologetically Ourselves: Remembering Nex Benedict and the Power of Identity

My heart is both full and heavy this week. 

I spent much of last weekend getting to know several other LGBTQIA+ residents in Tyngsborough. These conversations left me feeling uplifted, inspired for the work ahead, and so connected to our community. And then on Monday afternoon, I learned of the death of an Indigenous, non-binary youth in Oklahoma. 

It's heart-wrenching to hear about the tragic loss of Nex Benedict, a non-binary 16-year-old who faced unimaginable challenges due to transphobic bullying. Their story serves as a stark reminder of the harsh realities that many LGBTQIA+ individuals endure every day. As someone who identifies as transmasculine, non-binary, and queer, I understand the importance of living authentically in a world that often seeks to erase or invalidate our identities.

Before deciding to run for Select Board, I grappled with how much of my identity to share with the public. While some advised me to focus solely on being "Jackie," I can’t ignore the significance of acknowledging my non-binary, transgender, and queer identities, especially in light of stories like Nex's. Their courage in living openly and unapologetically, despite facing relentless discrimination, is both inspiring and heartbreaking.

One of the painful aspects of Nex's story is the misgendering and misrepresentation they are enduring even in death. As someone who knows the sting of being misgendered, I share Nex's hope to be remembered for who they truly were, not how others perceived them. But why should we wait until death to affirm our identities?

In a world where LGBTQIA+ youth are disproportionately vulnerable to violence and discrimination, it's crucial for us to live proudly and authentically, regardless of the risks. Our visibility challenges societal norms and fosters acceptance and understanding. Nex's life was a testament to resilience and bravery, and we owe it to them and to ourselves to honor their memory by continuing to advocate for LGBTQIA+ rights and visibility.

As I campaign for Select Board, I'm committed to amplifying the voices of marginalized communities, including LGBTQIA+ individuals, and advocating for policies that promote inclusivity and equality for all. Nex's tragic death serves as a sobering reminder of the urgent need for change, and I'm more determined than ever to work toward a future where every person can live authentically and without fear.

In the face of hatred and discrimination, let us honor Nex's legacy by living boldly and unapologetically as our true selves. Together, we can create a world where everyone is seen, valued, and celebrated for who they are.

Jackie (they/them)

Resources:

• DMH Young Adult Resource Guide LGBTQ Resources | Mass.gov

• Safe Spaces for LGBTQIA+ youth | Mass.gov

• Youth | Center for Hope and Healing in Lowell, MA

• Safe Schools Program for LGBTQ students | Mass.gov

Honoring the Past and Shaping the Future Together: My Journey with the Winslow School Strategic Visioning Committee

Jackie being sworn in

Jackie at the Winslow School

Public Visioning Session

I feel incredibly fortunate to have served on the 250 Middlesex Road (Winslow School) Strategic Visioning Committee, a journey that has profoundly shaped my perspective on community engagement and decision-making.

When I applied to be on the committee, I felt like a truly unbiased participant, as someone who did not grow up in Tyngsborough and who did not attend the Winslow School. I had read Facebook posts about how the building held a special place in the hearts of many residents, embodying cherished memories and shared history. However, once I toured the building in December 2022, it seemed destined for demolition. I truly didn't know what the committee would find during our exploration. This realization ignited a passion for preserving our town's character and revitalizing its center.

Our public visioning session in March 2023 brought to light the strong emotions and differing opinions surrounding the Winslow School's future. It became clear that engaging the community and truly listening to their desires was essential. We faced tough questions about our town's identity and future, and one thing was evident — we couldn't navigate this journey alone.

As we presented our recommendations in May 2023, I found solace in the knowledge that the decision, whatever it may be, would be the right one for our community. It was a testament to the importance of slowing down, listening, and involving residents in the decision-making process.

This experience is the bedrock of my campaign for Select Board. I believe in the power of community participation in local governance. Our town is a collective effort, and each resident's voice should be heard. As I embark on this journey, my goal is to empower every individual to actively contribute to shaping our town's future.

Join me in building a future where every voice is heard, every idea is valued, and every resident thrives. Together, let's make our town a place we are all proud to call home.